Real talk here. How many times have you had big expectations in another person only to be let down? Or, if not let down, you realize you were not realistic in your expectations. Why do we place such importance on others– especially when they may not even know its lingering over them.
And, if that isn’t bad enough, we place expectations on ourselves. We foresee how we want situations or relationships to be. The problem is, we don’t have control over circumstances or people. Having ideals is one thing, expectations is another.
Expectations can let us down.
Expectations can hurt.
Expectations can halt.
Expectations can divide.
Expectations can scare.
Expectations can disappoint.
Expectations help motivate and drive. But the pressure can be powerful. The need to succeed may cause us to react in ways we normally wouldn’t. The hardest realization may be, we believe we are unworthy. Expectations suck!
When goal setting, remind yourself it’s not the expectation that will make you succeed, but trusting in yourself. Allow yourself to be flexible. Be rational when setting limits. Circumstances change or people have their own conflicting goals. Expectations can energize your will to succeed, but they can also be destructive.
ANNOTATION FROM MY JOURNEY
I have expectations in my heart regarding a certain situation. These expectations limit me from moving forward on this journey. I have stopped in my tracks because fear is greater than trust. I didn’t meet another person’s expectations of me. I have no control on that, but I do have control on the expectations I put on them. Expectations suck because they limit how we move forward. When we expect…we demand. This is where I fail. And it’s numbing. There is a piece of me that isn’t complete. A piece of me that I don’t know how to find again because of the expectations I can’t let go. It’s hard to be open-minded and allow myself to trust there is room for another outcome. Ultimately, that is where my journey will lead me. Knowing the expectation I held onto for so long is unrealistic. Letting go of the expectation…and looking forward with new intentions.